We have two Choices:

There are only two choices in life that have any reality:

1) To resist what is actual and be lost in the pain and suffering of the huge confusions of competing, inconsistent and insane ideas and beliefs about ourselves and life.

2) To choose to let go of all illusions, delusions, fears and beliefs and, with immense sanity and freedom, let the universe take us in its dance.

All of us are going with the movement of life, no matter what we do. We are on the roller coaster and we can either embrace it and enjoy the ride, or fight it, screaming all the way.

It's up to us:

Whether we are a "loser" or a "president", or an overworked clerk, we have all manifested that in our lives with the same, inbuilt, amazing abilities. (Abilities to create what we believe about ourselves and life).

We can now use that ability to create a life of our conscious choosing.

Whatever we choose, if we want to grow into more complete beings, we need to become fully real in our selves to be able to make that choice.

It is suggested here that the most effective, belief and agenda-free approach to go beyond our self-imposed limitations, is to:
1. Become aware of any dysfunction in the world around us.
2. Become aware of any dysfunction in our own beings.
3. "Own" our dysfunction (to not deny or avoid it).
4. Understand why we became what we are.
5. Understand how this affects all of our relationships and experience of our lives.
6. Fully want and intend to change.
7. Do whatever work of self-exploration, including professional psychotherapy, that is necessary to deal with any deep unmet childhood needs and unresolved pain that we may have.
8. Set in place the self-discipline needed to maintain these understandings and changes.

The major element in any healing of the psyche is consciousness - self-aware, agenda-free exploration of the actual dynamics of life and our psyches, and the willingness to embrace the reality of whatever we uncover.

Becomereal provides simple but profound tools and much of the information needed for this exploration, but it is up to the individual to do the actual work for themselves.

There is nothing in this process about God, souls, reincarnation, meaning, or any spiritual "truth"; it is just based on the actual underlying dynamic of our psyches in the here-and-now.

Anything else is for yourself to explore, or not, from a place of full consciousness and freedom from self-limitation.

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Actual/Real/Truth: How life, the world, the universe actually is, whatever that may be.

Ideas: Mental creations about life and the world, which we use to build the beliefs that we live our lives by.

Beliefs: Sets of ideas that we consider "true" about our lives and the world, from which we create the content and experience of our lives.

Consciousness: Clear awareness, free of all ideas of "reality". Completely aware of the consequences of ideas and actions.

Identity/Self image: The person, the "me", that exists in the world with name, bank account, job, partner and life history.

Suffering: Life experiences created by a mismatch between ideas of what actually is and what actually is.

Real "Self": The immense and complete being we are, underneath all the filters, ideas and self limitations that give people their sense of identity and meaning.